What If Your Partner Doesn’t Have the Same Goals

Trying to take big strides in your health but feeling a little less than supported by your significant other?

You want to make chicken and broccoli for dinner, they order pizza. 

You want to get up and go to the gym at 5am and encourage you to just stay in bed.

You try to tell them about the awesome workout you just had and they’re looking at you like you have 3 heads. 

While we understand how frustrating it can be to not feel supported by your partner, you’re not the first nor the last to feel a little alone when it comes to making changes in your life.

How can you cope? Here’s 4 things we suggest:

  1. Remember this is your journey. We love doing things with our partners and feeling like everything is a team effort. But remember, making lifestyle changes is hard. Pushing our partners to do something that they don’t want to do almost always leads to the opposite desired effect (no one likes to feel pushed or guilted in to something they don’t want to do)
  2. Remember to see their side. Your partner may look forward to eating pizza and cuddling up with you on the couch every night. Now suddenly you dont want pizza AND you’re going to the gym?! They may be feeling a little left out. Which leads us to:
  3. Find other ways to have fun. If your partner feels a little left in the dust like we talked about above, make sure to try to find activities you can do together that so that both partners feel supported. Your partner wants pizza? Compromise and make a healthier version of pizza together.
  4. Find a support friend. If you feel like you need the extra accountability to stay on track, try finding a buddy at the gym that is looking for the same!
In short, you do you boo. Hopefully, your positive example will make your partner want to do the same. But if not, remember you can keep on kicking butt regardless!